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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“One would be straying from the straight path were he to wish the altar restored to its primitive table form; were he to want black excluded as a color for the liturgical vestments; were he to forbid the use of sacred images and statues in Churches; were he to order the crucifix so designed that the divine Redeemer's body shows no trace of His cruel sufferings; and lastly were he to disdain and reject polyphonic music or singing in parts, even where it conforms to regulations issued by the Holy See.”
— Ven. Pope Pius XII (20 November 1947)

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Spiritual Advice Given to Ronda
published 12 January 2013 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

AM A KIND of pilgrim going from place to place to stay at the Seminary, or at the homes of my adult daughters. This visit to my daughter, Diana, in California, I was going through old papers to see what to keep and what to chuck. I came upon pages from journals I had kept since 1992 because I thought the advice given me by different counselors and directors was important to read over and over again. In the next few blogs I am going to type them out in case some of them would be helpful to Watershed readers also.

“Every place you go you some of the truth will be missing because individuals and communities only carry part of the mystical body. Only in heaven will you find the whole truth.”

“Steps for Closure from a Christian counselor:

1. Yes, I have a problem.

2. I have a will and mind and I can use them.

3. Following these steps will increase my success.

4. I am releasing things in the past. I don’t have to grovel in the past.

5. I confess my passion to live in the comfort zone at any cost.

6. I forgive myself for my errors in this area.

7. All things that happened in my life I accept. I forgive the offence of others and even the laws of nature.

8. Divine forgiveness lightens me, so I can enjoy peace.

9. I persist in forgiveness. I choose to be blessed, not cursed.

10. I forgive God for “failing me.” I am forgiven. My rage is dissipating.

11. I bestow forgiveness on all others, totally.

12. I ask forgiveness of all others dead and alive. I imagine them saying “Yes, Ronda, we forgive you that you were so difficult and perfectionist.”

“Be as lonely as necessary to transition from co-dependency.”

“Be satisfied vs. complaining.”

“Tell no one what to do except your students.”

“Be carefree, even when you are very busy – just take a few minutes to be carefree.”

“You are loved with all your knots. People don’t think you are a terrible person. They think you are a wonderful person with defects they are trying to heal.”

“The cross of the prophet is that others will not listen.”