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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“One must pray to God not only with theologically precise formulas, but also in a beautiful and dignified way. The Christian community must make an examination of conscience so that the beauty of music and song will return increasingly to the liturgy.”
— Pope Saint John Paul II (26 February 2003)

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Gentleness vs. Roughness and other topics
published 23 April 2013 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

A meditation of mine for Lent, 2008 (from old journal)

Gentleness vs. Roughness

“But we were gentle among you, like a nurse taking care of her children.” (1 Thessalonians 2:7)

What a lovable quality gentleness is! Gentle people are soothing. How opposite to those of us who could be described, at least some of the time, as kind of tactless, rough or defensively confronting. If gentleness has its source in sympathy for the difficulties and hurts of others, roughness usually comes from impatient annoyance.

There is a famous hymn by a minstrel, Matt Talbot, called Gentle Woman about our Blessed Mother. Certainly she was also strong to be able to withstand incredible sufferings, but surely the mother of the Lord and of His Church would have to be also filled with gentle tenderness.

If we are called to be gentle with others, do we not also need to be gentle with ourselves? Of course we need to repent with fervor for our sins, but self-flagellating blame of self for every mistake or flaw comes from pride.

Think of roles in life where you have been gentle. Thank Jesus, gentle and humble of heart, for that virtue. Consider the people you can be rough with. Ask the Holy Spirit to melt your heart with forgiving compassion toward them.

Fr. Ken said that it is not wrong to think of the priest celebrating Mass as a performance. Ideally performance = forming something into the perfect shape, which is the way Fr. Ken tries to celebrate Mass, and does, so beautifully.

Regarding few people taking advantage of my Emotions groups, Fr. Ken remarked “people are looking for relief more than for healing. That’s why some prefer drugs to religion.”

Von Balthasar says about Jesus “You squander Yourself in the Eucharist.”