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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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"Never before have men had so many time-saving devices. Yet, never before have they had so little free time. When the world unnecessarily accelerates, the Church must slow down."
— Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen

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Day 81: The Challenge of Excusing instead of Accusing
published 27 March 2012 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.    
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(If you have something against someone else) “first go away and make peace with that person. Then come back and offer your gift (at the altar).” (Matthew 5:24)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: On my way to Holy Mass this morning I thought of excusing a friend for being so indirect in his advice that I didn’t even get it! I excused a man who is very hostile but doesn’t realize it. I thought that probably he must have had something very wounding in his childhood to have become so angry in spite of being so devout. I excused people in the Church who don’t like creative, interesting things I want to do. I realized they are right to want to be safe and if they don’t know me they could think I am some wild, foolish, innovator. At a meeting someone allowed her cell-phone to ring over and over again. We are warned to turn off our phones. I wondered why she couldn’t leave it in her car if she couldn’t make it turn off. I thought that perhaps she is just so anxious about others who might call that she has to see the call waiting person indicator so she could leave the meeting if it is an emergency. Your examples:

My prayer: My Jesus, You certainly suffered from people misunderstanding Your intentions. Even though You tried to teach them to think otherwise, you offered to them the option to repent. How much more trivial are the situations I face. Even if the excuses I devise are not accurate, let me realize that it is better to wrongly excuse than to harshly accuse. Your prayer:

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