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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“From six in the evening, his martyrdom had continued through the ghastly night until nine o'clock in the morning. After fifteen hours of torture rarely if ever surpassed in the bloody annals of the Iroquois, the soul of Gabriel Lalemant was freed from its charred and mutilated prison and summoned to join his comrade Jean de Brébeuf in the radiant splendor of God. March 17th, 1649, was the date; for Brébeuf it had been the sixteenth.”
— Fr. John A. O'Brien, speaking of St. Gabriel Lalemant

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Day 79: The Challenge of Resignation vs. Rage
published 21 March 2012 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.    [ Click here for 100 STEPS ]

“Be angry but sin not; commune with your own hearts on your beds and be silent. Offer right sacrifices, and put your trust in the Lord.” (Psalm 4:4-5)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: This challenge reminded me of the serenity prayer – to have the wisdom to know what I can change and what I can’t change. I thought of the character of a man who is kind of Stoic and not very communicative. I remembered someone writing that what women really want is to change men into women in terms of willingness to talk a lot about daily conflicts. I thought of how resignation is a relaxed state vs. the tension of anger. I reminded myself that instead of complaining I should be happy that anything goes well. Going slower vs. multi-tasking I find to be a help in overcoming irritability. I had to wait for a promised ride. I got angry, but I kept talking to myself about how trivial this was. Especially since the ride was to a talk on overcoming anger! The talk went very well and I was ashamed at my fantasies of giving up talks just to avoid the usual difficulties with speaking dates in terms of the arrangements. I can offer these little crosses up for the people attending the talk instead of fretfully complaining.

Your examples:

My prayer: Father God, even without original sin men and women would have been different in character in many ways. Let me accept these differences and work with them instead of going into a tizzy when the difference means I can’t have things my way. Remind me to thank you for all the wonderful masculine qualities in men who help me in so many ways.

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