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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“Since the ability of Francisco Guerrero is now abundantly known to all […] he shall henceforth act as master of the boys so long as: ( 1) he must teach them to read, write, and to sing the responsories, versicles, antiphons, lessons, and kalends, and other parts of divine service; (2) he shall teach them plainchant, harmony, and counterpoint, his instruction in counterpoint to include both the art of adding a melody to a plainsong and to an already existing piece of polyphonic music; (3) he shall always clothe them decently and properly, see that they wear good shoes, and ensure that their beds are kept perfectly clean; (4) he shall feed them the same food that he himself eats and never take money from them for anything having to do with their services in church or their musical instruction…” [cont’d]
— Málaga Cathedral Document (11 September 1551)

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Day 35: The Challenge of Loving Silence
published 9 January 2012 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“Be still and know that I am God!” (Psalm 46:10)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: I thought of this, one of my favorite Scriptures, in relation to giving advice. I saw that the more I trust in God the less I would give unwanted, repetitive advice. There are things my relatives do in a way very different than the way I would do them. My being silent and not giving unwanted advice I got to realize that they are much happier at this time of their lives than I was doing it “my way” or trying to force my husband to do it “my way.” Not that “my way” is wrong but that they compromise better than my husband and I did. I had a tech problem and I was very discouraged and upset. I wrote to the head of the tech administration about this. I was going to call him and consider dropping a big project, but I waited silently for him to respond to the e-mail. As soon as he got to his computer, he jumped onto to Skype to humbly tell me it was his mistake, and it is all fixed. I saw that bearing the discomfort of being silent instead of jumping on the phone got me this grace of a solution. The tech administrator said, “You don’t have to worry about problems with tech people. We see problems as just something to fix.”

Your examples:

Prayer: Come, Holy Spirit, on this last day devoted to the “Way of Giving Loving Advice, Step by Step” please show me how to benefit from all the fresh insights You have been giving me in this area fraught with tensions on both sides.

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