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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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Day 34: The Challenge of Loving Freedom enough Not to Try to Control Others through Advice
published 3 January 2012 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control…” Galatians 5:22-23

Dr. Ronda’s examples: Al-Anon teaches that you can only control yourself not others, but since I had a friend in what seemed to be a life or death situation I pounded in advice. It seemed futile because basically the friend doesn’t want to risk what is good in her situation even though she is risking her life. I felt deflated. I tried doing penance for her instead. That felt better. Sometimes when we are working on a virtue, in this case, the virtue of letting go, God shows us how big this is by letting us try the opposite with bad results. Sigh!

Prayer: Holy Trinity, Holy Family, all my intercessor saints, your frustrating project is to try to sanctify me! How can I become good clay in your hands if I so busy trying to mold others. Even if my intentions are good and loving, my method is often not so good. Please give me the trust to believe that even when I can’t help, you can unsnarl even life and death situations. After all, WWII had an end.

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