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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“More and more as we grow older, we find that the people we see most of are recent acquaintances; not (perhaps) very congenial to us, but chance has thrown them in our way. Meanwhile, the people we used to know so well—for whom we once entertained such warm feelings—are now remembered by a card at Christmas (if we can succeed in finding the address). How good we are at making friends, when we are young; how bad at keeping them! How eagerly, as we grow older, do we treasure up the friendships that are left to us, like beasts that creep together for warmth!”
— Msgr. Ronald Knox (1888-1957)

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Day 33: The Challenge of Loving Advice for Family and Close Friends
published 2 January 2012 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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Scripture: “Pray for one another.” (James 5:16)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: I spent some time with a friend I thought could use Emotions Anonymous (The 12 Step Program for those with Mental Illness). Instead of telling her to try it, I told about my good experience. Someone who is a non-practicing Catholic asked me to pray a novena for her son close to death. Instead of advising her to go back to Church instead of asking me, a stranger, to say a novena for him, I just said I would pray for him. I wrote a suggestion to a friend I was in conflict with in the mildest most neutral FYI type style. I prayed a lot for each of these people.

Your examples:

Prayer: Holy Spirit, you know how depressed I feel when I am not teaching people whether it is appropriate or not! Help me to truly believe that praying for others counts as much as teaching them when it is not appropriate. Let me not say what they will think of as religious clichés. Let me look for what You want me to say.

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