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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“I still haven’t made up my mind whether I shall publish it all. Some people are so humorless, so uncharitable, and so absurdly wrong-headed, that one would probably do far better to relax and enjoy life than worry oneself to death trying to instruct or entertain a public which will only despise one’s efforts, or at least feel no gratitude for them. Most readers know nothing about canon law. Many regard it with contempt and find everything heavy going that isn’t completely lowbrow. Some are so grimly serious that they disapprove of all humor. Others come to different conclusions every time they stand up or sit down. They seize upon your publications, as a wrestler seizes upon his opponent’s hair, and use them to drag you down, while they themselves remain quite invulnerable, because their barren pates are completely bald, so there’s nothing for you to get hold of.”
— St. Thomas More to Peter Gilles, 1516

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Day 33: The Challenge of Loving Advice for Family and Close Friends
published 2 January 2012 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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Scripture: “Pray for one another.” (James 5:16)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: I spent some time with a friend I thought could use Emotions Anonymous (The 12 Step Program for those with Mental Illness). Instead of telling her to try it, I told about my good experience. Someone who is a non-practicing Catholic asked me to pray a novena for her son close to death. Instead of advising her to go back to Church instead of asking me, a stranger, to say a novena for him, I just said I would pray for him. I wrote a suggestion to a friend I was in conflict with in the mildest most neutral FYI type style. I prayed a lot for each of these people.

Your examples:

Prayer: Holy Spirit, you know how depressed I feel when I am not teaching people whether it is appropriate or not! Help me to truly believe that praying for others counts as much as teaching them when it is not appropriate. Let me not say what they will think of as religious clichés. Let me look for what You want me to say.

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