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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“Father Daniel’s special work during his stay at Ihonatiria was with the children. Their parents had not trained or disciplined them, they were utterly lawless and bad-tempered, but with infinite forbearance and kindliness the missionary became a favorite with them… Having taught them to sing, he proceeded to train the children to chant the Our Father, the Hail Mary, and the Commandments, which he had rendered into Huron rhymes. Formed into a choir, they added beauty and solemnity to the chapel services and attracted great numbers of their elders to Mass.”
— From the Life of Saint Antoine Daniel (d. 1648)

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Day 32: The Challenge of Offering Advice in a Gentle Way
published 2 January 2012 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted (Hebrews 2:18).

Dr. Ronda’s examples: I wanted to give sarcastic advice but because of this exercise I postponed that advice which was good because I found out many extenuating circumstances leading to a forgiving vs. self-righteous approach to a problem. I asked whether my self-advice is gentle? “You idiot, why did you get involved in that problem in the first place?” could be replaced often by humor in my self-talk such as “Well, dearie, if you chose this plan with people with these obstacles to fulfilling it, why are you surprised?…how about applying the Serenity Prayer about seeing the difference between what you can change and what you can’t change???”

Prayer: Mother Mary, help me to see that when sarcastic advice wells up it is because I am frustrated in some proud plan of mine that might not really be the plan of God. Help me to pause as long as possible before giving advice to see if the timing is right.

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