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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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The effectiveness of liturgy does not lie in experimenting with rites and altering them over and over, nor in a continuous reductionism, but solely in entering more deeply into the word of God and the mystery being celebrated. It is the presence of these two that authenticates the Church's rites, not what some priest decides, indulging his own preferences.
— Liturgicae Instaurationes (1970)

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A New Angle on Suffering
published 22 August 2012 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I was talking to my daughter in North Carolina. She is the poet with 5 children. She is not receiving sacraments but she is very deep about religious questions just the same. I was talking about the question of whether one should leave a beloved person if he/she is doing something self-destructive and the pain of seeing this, for me becomes unbearable. Or, instead, should I make it a threat as in “I will leave unless you do x, y, or z, to improve.

My daughter responded: “Jesus didn’t say He would come and die on the cross for our sins only IF we did x,y, or z. He just came. And He didn’t ask for novacaine! Even though I am not sure I believe it, since it is the most beautiful example of love I’ve ever heard of, that’s what we should do. Just suffer for our beloved relative and not make conditions. Just accept the suffering.”

As soon as she said this both of us felt a lightening of the burden.

I realize there are situations where one should leave or make a deal, but in our case this seemed the right thing.

It reminded me of how when I have unbearable sufferings I can’t evade in any way such as the actual death of a loved one, acceptance is ultimately easier than thrashing and churning.

Of course the best way to do this, once it is decided not to leave, is to totally bring that pain into the heart of Jesus and unite it with all His sufferings.

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