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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“In spite of what it is currently called, the music of these songs is not modern: this musical style is not new, but has been played in the most profane places and surroundings (cabarets, music halls, often for more or less lascivious dances with foreign names). The people are led on to rock or swing. They all feel an urge to dance about. That sort of “body language” is certainly alien to our Western culture, unfavorable to contemplation and its origins are rather suspect. Most of the time our congregations, which already find it hard not to confuse the crochets and the quavers in a 6/8 bar, do not respect the rhythm; then one no longer feels like dancing, but with the rhythm gone to pieces, the habitual poorness of the melodic line becomes all the more noticeable.”
— Unnamed choirmaster (Northern France) circa 1986

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Making Mistakes
published 20 September 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I was at a meeting where we work on trying not to think we can control everything by doing things perfectly. I realized that senioritis is a GOOD challenge for that tendency. Why? Because when we get older we can’t even dream of doing everything perfectly!

Where do such follies come from? I think that if you had any kind of emotional chaos in your childhood home that you think you can control the results if you do small things well. For example, in school we get gold stars or A grades if we do things well.

So, whenever we make a mistake, it reminds us of the feeling of chaos that afflicted us as children and calls up anxiety.

Remedy? We can immediately when we make a mistake laugh humbly and say – “well, I’m human – I make mistakes.” Then, where applicable, we can apologize, modeling for others that one doesn’t have to get defensive about mistakes.

Basically, since we are called to pray constantly, these are good moments to pray something like “God, you are perfect, I am weak. Help me.”

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