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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“At the hour for the Divine Office, | as soon as the signal is heard, | let them abandon whatever they may have in hand | and hasten with the greatest speed, | yet with seriousness, so that there is no excuse for levity. | Let nothing be preferred to the sacred liturgy.”
— Rule of St. Benedict (Chapter 43)

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Making Mistakes
published 20 September 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I was at a meeting where we work on trying not to think we can control everything by doing things perfectly. I realized that senioritis is a GOOD challenge for that tendency. Why? Because when we get older we can’t even dream of doing everything perfectly!

Where do such follies come from? I think that if you had any kind of emotional chaos in your childhood home that you think you can control the results if you do small things well. For example, in school we get gold stars or A grades if we do things well.

So, whenever we make a mistake, it reminds us of the feeling of chaos that afflicted us as children and calls up anxiety.

Remedy? We can immediately when we make a mistake laugh humbly and say – “well, I’m human – I make mistakes.” Then, where applicable, we can apologize, modeling for others that one doesn’t have to get defensive about mistakes.

Basically, since we are called to pray constantly, these are good moments to pray something like “God, you are perfect, I am weak. Help me.”

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