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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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The effectiveness of liturgy does not lie in experimenting with rites and altering them over and over, nor in a continuous reductionism, but solely in entering more deeply into the word of God and the mystery being celebrated. It is the presence of these two that authenticates the Church's rites, not what some priest decides, indulging his own preferences.
— Liturgicae Instaurationes (1970)

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Healing of Rejection
published 15 May 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I am working on a talk for a series in Los Angeles this summer on Meeting Jesus in the Crises of Life. One is on rejection. The focus is on a particular but common type of rejection that comes with over-estimating what others can do and be for us. This is different than the rejection that Jesus experienced with the Jewish leaders where he in no way over-estimated them.

I use two little scenarios. One is about a divorced woman who falls in love with her boss, a married man. The other involves a father who wants his son to be the baseball star he couldn’t be. I take these characters through stages of fantasy, anxiety, rejection, surrender, forgiveness, to the right kind of love.

One of my chief insights, from lots of sorrowful experiences, is that when we approach others with thirst rather than tenderness they almost have to reject us. In our thirst for whatever their virtues and talents seem to promise, we demand of them more than they can possibly deliver. We make them into little gods and goddesses. Then, they fail us and we feel rejected.

When we bring our pain to Jesus, He can gradually bring His love into our wounds. Then, after forgiveness, we can reach out to others more tenderly instead of with a desperate thirst which usually leads to rejection.

If you are interested in more about this, ask Watershed to pass along your contact information and I can e-mail you the whole book.

Dr. Ronda Chervin has many free e-books and audios on her website rondachervin.com. If you go to her website and read or listen and then want to correspond with her she will be available. Her schedule does not permit, however, responding to comments on the Blog, though she enjoys reading them. Dr. Ronda’s newest project is spiritualityrunningtogod.com.