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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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"Nothing should be allowed that is unworthy of divine worship, nothing that is obviously profane or unfit to express the inner, sacred power of prayer. Nothing odd or unusual is allowable, since such things, far from fostering devotion in the praying community, rather shock and upset it and impede the proper and rightful cultivation of a devotion faithful to tradition."
— Pope Paul VI • 10/13/1966

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Balance
published 6 March 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I am fascinated by buzz-words. Of a sudden you keep hearing some new expression such as “don’t micro-manage me!” At first I find it repulsive. Then, gradually, I begin to see that the new buzz-word became popular because what it refers to has become endemic.

Such was the buzz-word “you have to have more balance” that became popular in the 1970’s. I was brought up by a father who adored music but was forced to study piano instead of the kettle drums he dreamed of playing instead. To compensate he favored recordings of Ravel’s Bolero or Stravinksy’s Rite of Spring over harmonious piano concertos. Since, as children, we had music in the background every evening of our lives, I think such rhythms got me into the idea that drama and intensity were the key to joy and the type of balance I might have picked up from listening to, say, Bach was stodgy.

When I was a raising children, I hated housework. I dreamed of the day when I could, without interruption, only pray, teach and write. I thought “the grass is greener” for single professors who could concentrate only on their work. I was astounded that when I became a widow with no children around I actually missed such mundane tasks as dishwashing or having TV in the background of my other tasks.

I recalled a psychological study of types I learned about in the 70’s. The idea was to relate the 4 elements: air, earth, fire and water to your own personality. Being airy (spacey and overly seeking transcendence) and fiery (too intense) I could get BALANCE by having some earthy or watery elements in my day. Not an outdoor sort, earthiness probably came with work in the house – down in the dirt; and more water from swimming or even rinsing dishes. I think there’s something in it.

Is your life well-balanced? If not, you could ask the Holy Spirit to nudge you toward what you need.

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