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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“One would be straying from the straight path were he to wish the altar restored to its primitive table form; were he to want black excluded as a color for the liturgical vestments; were he to forbid the use of sacred images and statues in Churches; were he to order the crucifix so designed that the divine Redeemer's body shows no trace of His cruel sufferings; and lastly were he to disdain and reject polyphonic music or singing in parts, even where it conforms to regulations issued by the Holy See.”
— Ven. Pope Pius XII (20 November 1947)

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Loneliness vs. Too Close for Comfort
published 27 March 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I live on the grounds of the seminary where I teach in a little cell-like dorm room. I barter room and board for teaching. It is a great life for a devout widow – closeness to so many wonderful seminarians and no house work or cooking! But between classes and Masses and Liturgy of the Hours and meals, I feel lonely. Especially lonely for my adult children and grandchildren who are far away. I consider that these feelings of loneliness put me in solidarity with seminarians and priests who have plenty of people around them and many friends, too, but still lead a solitary life compared to living with family. Yes, Jesus, Mary, and Joseph and all the saints are our spiritual family, but still…..

But then, when I am with my family for long visits and when I remember when we were all together before my son and husband died, I identified with the title of that sit-com “too close for comfort.” Yes, such cozy, familiarity, but still also such tangled webs of conflict.

How I long for heaven…can you imagine what it will be like with the greatest closeness to everyone we love and none of the quarrels! In his wonderful short book “Jaws of Death, Gate of Heaven,” Dietrich Von Hildebrand explains that fear of the unknown keeps us from simply longing for heaven night and day. Still, I think it would give us much more joy throughout the day if we cast our souls up to God and prayed more often to come to our heavenly home whenever God so wills.

Dr. Ronda has many free e-books and audios on her website rondachervin.com. If you go to her website and read or listen and then want to correspond with her she will be available. Her schedule does not permit, however, responding to comments on the Blog, though she enjoys reading them. Dr. Ronda’s newest project is spiritualityrunningtogod.com.