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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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Healing of the humiliating vices of envy and competitiveness.
published 17 March 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I do a lot of teaching on Masculine/Feminine Stereotypical Traits. I deal with positive and negative ones for each sex. Positive would be wonderful traits such as the nurturing of women and the drive of men, among others. Negative would include such awful traits as the envy of women of each other and the competitiveness of men with each other.

Example: check out how a roomful of averagely attractive women react if a flamboyantly sexy woman walks in the door. if we avoid such attire, we will likely still be envious and even full of hate for such a woman. Watch how many a short, heavy-set man reacts when a tall handsome muscular jock enters his milieu. It’s sometimes called the Napoleon complex.

A humiliating feature of envy and competitiveness is that you tacitly have to admit that you feel inferior in order to indulge in such traits.

There is a beautiful holy remedy encapsulated in the phrase of St. Thomas Aquinas: “you can only love yourself loving.” Say it slowly and you’ll get it. When we move out in love to anyone we feel love in our hearts and this makes us happy to be ourselves.

God help me to admire your handiwork in the bodies of those more gifted than me in these ways, but to truly believe that love is the best gift and one available equally to all of us.

Dr. Ronda has many free e-books and audios on her website rondachervin.com. If you go to her website and read or listen and then want to correspond with her she will be available. Her schedule does not permit, however, responding to comments on the Blog, though she enjoys reading them. Dr. Ronda’s newest project is spiritualityrunningtogod.com.