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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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"Since such is the nature of man that he cannot easily without external means be raised to meditation on divine things, on that account holy Mother Church has instituted certain rites, namely that certain things be pronounced in a subdued tone (canon and words of consecration) and others in a louder tone; she has likewise made use of ceremonies such as mystical blessings, lights, incense, vestments, and many other things of this kind in accordance with apostolic teaching and tradition, whereby both the majesty of so great a sacrifice might be commended, and the minds of the faithful excited by these visible signs of religion and piety to the contemplation of the most sublime matters which are hidden in this sacrifice."
— Council of Trent (Session XXII)

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Later Life Meetings with Siblings
published 11 July 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

Mostly I see my sister at family reunions. There we act out our admiration and love for each other as well as our tensions before an audience. This year we thought we would both go to a place we love just together and see if we could do better.

I am thinking that some of my observations could fit the case with any visits of adult siblings.

One of the best parts is being with someone who intimately knew our parents who have, as the Irish sometimes say, “gotten away from us” to eternity. We think we both admired and loved the same things and disliked and even hated the same things, but usually it is different. This gives us a chance to re-evaluate. Oh, maybe old Mom or Dad did this and that for a reason my sibling knew about and I never knew about. This can be healing.

We could be alike in certain characteristics but exercise these in quite different ways. For example, one might be obedient to genuine authorities when it comes to large vistas and plans and ideas and the other generally rebellious about those. But the other might be very obedient about liturgical practices or refinements of manners where the other is sloppy and sometimes offensive! Without directly confronting one another could we observe and learn where we need to?

After 4 days it reminded me of marriage where even if each one gives 100% there are still inevitable annoyances and conflicts. But, also, like in a good marriage, it is worth it because of those great virtues of the other, known over so many decades!

How wonderful it will be to be “family” in heaven, by repentance and God’s grace, to only experience the good! Lord, have mercy on us all!

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