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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“I still haven’t made up my mind whether I shall publish it all. Some people are so humorless, so uncharitable, and so absurdly wrong-headed, that one would probably do far better to relax and enjoy life than worry oneself to death trying to instruct or entertain a public which will only despise one’s efforts, or at least feel no gratitude for them. Most readers know nothing about canon law. Many regard it with contempt and find everything heavy going that isn’t completely lowbrow. Some are so grimly serious that they disapprove of all humor. Others come to different conclusions every time they stand up or sit down. They seize upon your publications, as a wrestler seizes upon his opponent’s hair, and use them to drag you down, while they themselves remain quite invulnerable, because their barren pates are completely bald, so there’s nothing for you to get hold of.”
— St. Thomas More to Peter Gilles, 1516

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Ridicule - a sin?
published 28 February 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I just finished writing a book with the Ballards (Lutheran ministers turned Catholic) called What the Saints Say About Heaven…one of my co-authors included an old examination of conscience as an appendix. To my amazement it listed under sins ridicule of others, sarcasm, and even enjoying hearing others criticized!

This occasioned a general confession of 73 years of these sins! (In case you are a younger Catholic and don’t know, a “general confession” doesn’t mean you detail 73 years of instances of a sin. That might bore the confessor. You just say “I want to confess 73 years of doing “x”. It sure lightens the load of guilt!

While waiting on line for confession I thought of how Kierkegaard wrote that instead of gossiping about the sins of others we should weep for them. Now, by gossip, we don’t mean necessary conversations involving the faults of others for the purpose of helping them or dealing with them. What is meant is indulging in the details of the flaws of others to make oneself feel superior and to almost gloat. At least that’s the way I do it.

At the last minute I asked in the confession: “probably making sarcastic self-deprecatory remarks about myself is also not so good?” My confessor suggested that this comes under lack of love of self which is preliminary to love of neighbor as oneself.

This reminded me of one of my best thoughts about marriage – that we sometimes go from idolizing the spouse, to despising him or her as a fallen idol, whereas it is better to see the other not as an idol at all but as a funny little struggling creature, and ourselves that way also!

So ridicule and sarcasm are forms of pride. We proudly demean others. With ourselves we first proudly see ourselves as little idols and then feel horrified when we become fallen idols. If we were humble we would lower our heads in shame but say, as my holy godfather used to advise, “here I am, Lord, your poor little creature who fell again. Have mercy on me.”

They say we should not only pray the mercy chaplet but have a whole mercy spirituality. The ideas in this blog could be a start, eh?

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