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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“I grew up listening to Lessons & Carols from Cambridge and that was Advent-Christmas for me. Then I moved to Rome and discovered Rorate Masses, the Novena of the Immaculate Conception with the Tota Pulchra, the Christmas Novena, the O Antiphons, the Aspiciens, the Rorate Coeli, the Alma Redemptoris Mater: that's Advent for me now. I am glad to see seminarians all over the United States doing Lessons & Carols, but are they learning our ancient Roman traditions alongside a 20th-century Anglican one?”
— Rev. Christopher Smith

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Anger Management that Works
published 23 February 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

Eight years or so ago, my dear friend suggested that I write a book on Catholic Anger Management. The idea is that many Catholics don’t believe in pop-pyschology and so would stay away from Anger-Management groups even though they need to manage their anger better.

This resulted in my book Taming the Lion Within: Five Steps from Anger to Peace. It weds Abraham Low, Ph.D.'s Recovery International Self-Help techniques with Catholic spirituality.

Here’s a sample: Even if I go to daily Mass and prayer the rosary, the mercy chaplet, etc. etc. if my underlying vision for my life is that I am the heroine of the drama and everyone else is either a secondary character or a cameo role designed to enhance my drama queen role, then I am going to be angry every day. Why? Because, guess what? The others want me to be a secondary character or walk-on in their dramas, so they refuse to play minor roles in mine!

Remedy: go to Recovery, International – there’s a group in such familiar towns as Corpus Christi, Texas. The techniques of this system got me from 5 fits a day to 1 a month. My family was ecstatic! If you’re too proud to try a local group, wherever you are, (groups can be found on the web be sure to put in International since otherwise you could get 12 Step), you can also do phone meetings and hob-nob with folks from England and Puerto Rico!

Or, if none of this appeals to you, just mutter this mantra from the poet Auden: “Thou shalt love thy crooked neighbor with thy crooked self.” Ha! Ha! You can’t say the first part without the second part!

Dr. Ronda has many free e-books and audios on her website rondachervin.com. If you go to her website and read or listen and then want to correspond with her she will be available. Her schedule does not permit, however, responding to comments on the Blog, though she enjoys reading them.