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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“In spite of what it is currently called, the music of these songs is not modern: this musical style is not new, but has been played in the most profane places and surroundings (cabarets, music halls, often for more or less lascivious dances with foreign names). The people are led on to rock or swing. They all feel an urge to dance about. That sort of “body language” is certainly alien to our Western culture, unfavorable to contemplation and its origins are rather suspect. Most of the time our congregations, which already find it hard not to confuse the crochets and the quavers in a 6/8 bar, do not respect the rhythm; then one no longer feels like dancing, but with the rhythm gone to pieces, the habitual poorness of the melodic line becomes all the more noticeable.”
— Unnamed choirmaster (Northern France) circa 1986

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Day 19: The Challenge of Forgiving School-mates, Co-workers and Neighbors
published 9 December 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. (Matthew 5:9)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: The poet Auden wrote “thou shalt love thy crooked neighbor with thy crooked heart.” This means I have to forgive people who by just “being themselves” cause me annoyance and frustration. For example because a co-worker, otherwise wonderful, is lazy about some of her jobs, I have frustration in the part of my job that dove-tails with hers. Because someone is always late, I have to wait around and not do what I want to do. I forgave several such people for these fault of theirs.

A co-worker said he found it hard to forgive people for interrupting conversations with him to answer cell phones. He insisted that this is rarely necessary since there is rarely an emergency, and people do it because they want instant gratification of their need to get in touch with someone. He said we should not answer until we are alone. I had not thought of the rude, unlovingness of this. Also, with regard to forgiveness, that we should not do things that aren’t necessary that are hard for others to forgive!

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Prayer: Father God, since we are made for heaven, how can we help hating all the annoyances of our life on earth and being angry at those who cause them? I hear You telling me that loving forgiveness does more to prepare our souls for heaven than does efficiency in our work. Amen!

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