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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“I prefer to say nothing, or very little, about the new calendar, the handiwork of a trio of maniacs who suppressed—with no good reason—Septuagesima and the Octave of Pentecost and who scattered three quarters of the Saints higgledy-piddledy, all based on notions of their own devising!”
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Day 19: The Challenge of Forgiving School-mates, Co-workers and Neighbors
published 9 December 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. (Matthew 5:9)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: The poet Auden wrote “thou shalt love thy crooked neighbor with thy crooked heart.” This means I have to forgive people who by just “being themselves” cause me annoyance and frustration. For example because a co-worker, otherwise wonderful, is lazy about some of her jobs, I have frustration in the part of my job that dove-tails with hers. Because someone is always late, I have to wait around and not do what I want to do. I forgave several such people for these fault of theirs.

A co-worker said he found it hard to forgive people for interrupting conversations with him to answer cell phones. He insisted that this is rarely necessary since there is rarely an emergency, and people do it because they want instant gratification of their need to get in touch with someone. He said we should not answer until we are alone. I had not thought of the rude, unlovingness of this. Also, with regard to forgiveness, that we should not do things that aren’t necessary that are hard for others to forgive!

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Prayer: Father God, since we are made for heaven, how can we help hating all the annoyances of our life on earth and being angry at those who cause them? I hear You telling me that loving forgiveness does more to prepare our souls for heaven than does efficiency in our work. Amen!

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