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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“More and more as we grow older, we find that the people we see most of are recent acquaintances; not (perhaps) very congenial to us, but chance has thrown them in our way. Meanwhile, the people we used to know so well—for whom we once entertained such warm feelings—are now remembered by a card at Christmas (if we can succeed in finding the address). How good we are at making friends, when we are young; how bad at keeping them! How eagerly, as we grow older, do we treasure up the friendships that are left to us, like beasts that creep together for warmth!”
— Msgr. Ronald Knox

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Day 18: Forgiving those in Authority: teachers, managers, the Church?
published 7 December 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?... You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel.” James 4: 1-2

Dr. Ronda’s examples: Finding the above Scripture, I realized that I get so angry at anyone in a boss position because I “covet” my will in all situations. Even if I have some justice in my side of a quarrel, I often neglect to even consider what they could be right about. An example is that I get enraged because of the fact that since clergy choose to wear so many layers of clothing under the required vestments they have temperature needs in the Church at variance with the congregation – they keep it cold in the winter and crank up the A/C in the summer, so then I have to be cold or uncomfortably swathed in layers of winter clothing at long ceremonies! Instead I should understand why the priests want to wear pants for modesty under the long vestments and “forgive” them for trying to avoid being suffocatingly hot by keeping the Church cooler than I like, and just offer up my discomfort.

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Prayer: Sweet Jesus, have mercy on me for my self-centered desires. I have such a good life compared to most people and yet I manage to obsess about relative trifles. Open my mind and my heart to those in authority so that if I am right I can speak the truth with love, but if I am not right, I may see it, and let go of grievances.

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