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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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"I am of the opinion, to be sure, that the old rite should be granted much more generously to all those who desire it. It’s impossible to see what could be dangerous or unacceptable about that. A community is calling its very being into question when it suddenly declares that what until now was its holiest and highest possession is strictly forbidden, and when it makes the longing for it seem downright indecent. Can it be trusted any more about anything else? Won’t it proscribe tomorrow what it prescribes today?"
— Pope Benedict XVI, writing in 1997

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Day 17: The Challenge of Forgiving Friends
published 6 December 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.” Proverbs 17:9

Dr. Ronda’s examples: I realized that occasionally these hurts have been totally the fault of the friend, and I forgave them. But most often these hurts have come from my wanting desperately for someone to be something he or she couldn’t be given that person’s character. So I can forgive them for not being “perfect” but more importantly I need to choose friends more realistically. Or mingle with sadness when they fail me, that their virtues far outweigh what they can’t or won’t give me!

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Prayer: Oh, dear Mother Mary, I am your spiritual daughter. Please whisper in my ear what I need to know so as to be less hurt unnecessarily. With those few friends who truly were gravely at fault in how they treated me, let me forgive them from the heart as you forgave all those who hurt you and Joseph and Jesus.

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