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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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Day 16: The Challenge of Forgiving Family Members
published 5 December 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“Father, forgive them, they know not what they do.” Luke 23:24

Dr. Ronda’s examples: I have done healing exercises along these lines many times, but this time I got special new graces of understanding. I always resented that my father was not affectionate. From feeling anxious just today about a present-day father-figure who isn’t a teddy bear, I suddenly realized it came from shyness, not from coldness. Then I could forgive my own father as well as this present “father-figure.” I saw that my mother felt inferior as a middle child who got little affirmation and that was why she was so critical of everyone – to compensate and feel superior because of her intellect. I forgave her for being so critical of everything I said and did. I saw that my sister was critical of me partly also for the same reason my mother was. I saw that my husband couldn’t overcome his poor Jewish ghetto background in the way he wanted so much to do, and that made him jealous of my professional successes. I forgave him for that. I saw that since he was a much more sensual person by nature than I am that it was more of a temptation for him to be a certain way that hurt me. I forgave him. With our now adult children I could see why they acted in ways that upset me greatly and I thanked God for how much love there is in their hearts in spite of those actions.

Your examples:

Prayer: Oh, Jesus, so merciful, compassionate and forgiving, thank you for these special graces today in my memories of my family. When bad memories or present happenings make me feel hurt, let me swiftly run to you for comfort and then quickly forgive my family members.

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