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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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Tournemire could be charming or he could bite your head off. One day I could not replace him at St. Clotilde because I had a wedding to play at another church. Tournemire played on Sunday, period—that was all. He did not play weddings and so forth. (He put all that on my back.) So I went to Tournemire’s house to tell him, “Master, I am sorry but, for once, I cannot replace you. I have another obligation to fulfill.” He said, “Get out of here!” I left for good.
— Testimony of Maurice Duruflé

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Day 14: The Challenge of Trying to Converse Lovingly one Whole Day!
published 3 December 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.” 1 Corinthians 13:1-3

Dr. Ronda’s examples: Pondering the idea of a softer, gentler voice, I thought about how Mary didn’t speak loudly to the baby Jesus. Maybe I need to speak gently to the baby Jesus in others? I did better on this throughout the day, but I noticed that I get bored and even depressed when I only speak lightly and softly! Loud talk with overt or explicit anger could be an adrenalin rush? How terrible! Because I was working on this challenge, in a written conflict with someone on e-mail I managed to express myself lovingly instead of defensively, as I usually would.

Your examples:

Prayer: Holy Spirit, I truly believe that you show us the darkness in us not to make us quail with fear and want to give up on spiritual growth. No! You tell me to persevere and to take seriously the theme of the whole Way of Love project: step by step even if some days it’s one step forward and two steps back. When I feel depressed from not being able to talk angrily please fill in that void with graced love from You, the comforter.

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