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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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Day 13: The Challenge of Avoiding Boasting to be more Loving in Conversation
published 3 December 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“If you have been foolish, exalting yourself … put your hand on your mouth.” (Proverbs 30: 32)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: Boasting, a bad, proud, defect in my character, is only one way of being self-centered in conversation. Another defect can be presuming to speak for others. Another would be making statements as if one is the oracle of all wisdom. I had a faculty meeting today and I found that lowering my voice when expressing my opinion, plus humor, cut through some of the above defects. In another situation where I usually becoming a raging lunatic, through the grace of God, I managed to be calm, soft, and vulnerable. In an important conversation initiating a project I noticed that when I was focusing on the talents of other participants in the project it felt very good but when I began to boast I felt more insecure, not about the project but about my own progress in the “way of love.”

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Prayer: Holy Spirit, I can see how You are trying to help me to see the benefits of loving conversation vs. the defects that I am pin-pointing in myself, but also sharing to give examples for others to look at. Keep me from discouragement. Let me see even one victory of love a day as a step toward the goal.

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