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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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“More and more as we grow older, we find that the people we see most of are recent acquaintances; not (perhaps) very congenial to us, but chance has thrown them in our way. Meanwhile, the people we used to know so well—for whom we once entertained such warm feelings—are now remembered by a card at Christmas (if we can succeed in finding the address). How good we are at making friends, when we are young; how bad at keeping them! How eagerly, as we grow older, do we treasure up the friendships that are left to us, like beasts that creep together for warmth!”
— Msgr. Ronald Knox (1888-1957)

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Day 11: Conversing more lovingly by not being too loud, too soft, talking too much or too little.
published 1 December 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

What you will read now is part of a series of 100 spiritual challenges. Each blog can be viewed separately, but for maximum benefit a reader needs to start with the introductory blog of November 18, 2011, and then continue step by step. Day One begins on Sunday, November 20, 2011.
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“When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent”. (Proverbs 10:19)

Dr. Ronda’s examples: At breakfast by speaking less hastily I spoke about something helpful instead of talking too much about trivia. With a friend I got her to tell me when my voice is too loud and when it is not too soft. Since often I talk too loud partly because I don’t hear too well, I realize I can think I am talking too softly when I am just right! Later in the day I started longing for more silence even though it is usually boring and skipped lunch to avoid having to talk. I had a good conversation with student, and could hear the Holy Spirit hopefully to resolve a small conflict by listening more carefully than usual. At a dinner I spoke well and made many points but my voice was too loud and I could see that it was because there was anger in my heart. In a car conversation I talked imprudently about matters that could be misunderstood, sigh!

Your examples:

Dear Lord, I went to bed heavy-hearted seeing how difficult loving conversation is for me. It was such a struggle. Help me to notice well the good examples that came with Your grace and to believe that You want to show me how to do this better step by step, day by day.

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