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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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It should be borne in mind that there is no preference expressed in the liturgical legislation for either “versus populum” or “ad orientem.” Since both positions enjoy the favor of law, the legislation may not be invoked to say that one position or the other accords more closely with the mind of the Church.
— Congregation for Divine Worship (Vatican City), 10 April 2000

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Disappointment in Friendships doesn't need to be Total Loss
published 8 April 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

Sometimes we think that a particular admired person will be a great friend forever. Then something happens that hurts or disillusions us. I am not writing about severe tragic betrayals, but more about personality conflict. We have to give up that dream of life-long closeness. When we think of him or her it is with sadness and even distaste.

But then a new situation arises where we find ourselves collaborating with that lost friend. Suddenly, we see again the other at his/her best, and the original bond is strengthened, not necessary forever, but for this God-given common task or ministry.

This happened to me today with several people who had disappointed me and whom I disappointed. Out of love for a new very hurting person we all gathered around and grace flowed toward the one we were praying with who had no idea of all the past problems between us. Besides the grace to our new mutual friend, there was a flow of appreciative love in the whole circle.

What will it be like in heaven when all is really forgiven?

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