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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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In the '60s, I thought this emphasis on congregational singing was to encourage good Catholic hymns like "Immaculate Mary" and so forth … but after the Council, they threw them out, too!
— Fr. Valentine Young, OFM (2007)

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Why be a Wounded Healer
published 29 April 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

I am working on talks for a Healing Conference in Greenville, S.C. I will be contributing to in June. I was stuck a little thinking of people coming desperately wanting physical healing, which will be prayed for in the first segment by Fr. Longenecker, and then having to listen to me on toxic emotions they are usually in denial of.

The old image of Henri Nouwen in his most popular book, The Wounded Healer, came up to give me an approach. Negative emotions such as anger and anxiety are actually toxic. They are “kill-joys.” I thought of a joyful little kid jumping around noisily and suddenly being hit by an angry alcoholic parent. “Wounded” by the negative emotions of our parents, we then go out wounding others, often in more subtle forms such as the “sword” of sarcasm.

Our good emotions such as patience, kindness, are soothing, by contrast.

“No one heals himself by wounding another,” is, I think, a saying from Nouwen’s book.

As I work on the talk I will share any nuggets with you’all.

Dr. Ronda Chervin has many free e-books and audios on her website rondachervin.com. If you go to her website and read or listen and then want to correspond with her she will be available. Her schedule does not permit, however, responding to comments on the Blog, though she enjoys reading them. Dr. Ronda’s newest project is spiritualityrunningtogod.com.