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Ronda Chervin received a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Fordham University and an MA in Religious Studies from Notre Dame Apostolic Institute. A widow, mother, and grandmother, she currently teaches philosophy at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, Connecticut. Write to her at chervinronda@gmail.com.
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"I am of the opinion, to be sure, that the old rite should be granted much more generously to all those who desire it. It’s impossible to see what could be dangerous or unacceptable about that. A community is calling its very being into question when it suddenly declares that what until now was its holiest and highest possession is strictly forbidden, and when it makes the longing for it seem downright indecent. Can it be trusted any more about anything else? Won’t it proscribe tomorrow what it prescribes today?"
— Pope Benedict XVI, writing in 1997

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Dedicated Widows of the Holy Eucharist
published 25 April 2011 by Dr. Ronda Chervin

After my husband died in 1993 I thought I would become an instant saint. But, as he feared, I became, instead a dingbat floating around on the ceiling without the ballast of his heavy domineering hand! Recently I counted up 16 different ways of life I tried. A wonderful charismatic Catholic therapist told me not to look upon these as failures but to make a list and next to each one think of how I helped others at that time and how others helped me. So now I try to think of them as stepping stones instead of failures.

Anyhow many of these rotated around trying to find a way of life for ardent Catholic widows who don’t want to get stuck some day in a Catholic retirement home where after daily Mass the main activity is watching big screen game shows. I will not make you laugh by describing reasons why seemingly perfect solutions didn’t work both because of my defects and theirs, but instead tell you about my latest venture which fits with one mentor’s advice “dream not the impossible dream, but the possible dream.”

Dedicated Widows of the Holy Family will be a group of widows who promise not to re-marry with Jesus as our Second Bridegroom, to dedicate ourselves to Christ and the Church but in the specific form of living close to seminaries and volunteering in service for whatever needs we can help with, as well as participating in the Mass and Liturgy of the Hours with them as more or less “spiritual mothers.” In effect, bartering 3 delicious meals a day for fostering vocations! Yum! Yum! I am already doing this, but now I have 3 more interested who may come all the way from Colorado and Maryland. No money is involved. We live simply but keep our own funds for visits to family, etc.

If anyone reads this who is either a widow or a potential widow, or a single who could live with a widow paradigm rule, check out the Statutes on rondachervin.com click on Widow Options.

If you fit into none of these categories, say a prayer for us to Mary, Exalted Widow (that is her name in a Spanish novena).

Dr. Ronda Chervin has many free e-books and audios on her website rondachervin.com. If you go to her website and read or listen and then want to correspond with her she will be available. Her schedule does not permit, however, responding to comments on the Blog, though she enjoys reading them. Dr. Ronda’s newest project is spiritualityrunningtogod.com.